Coaching
My work focusses on the relationship of the individual to the systemic. We may believe ourselves to be governed by rules and contracts that were established in our families and communities, or in society in general, but with coaching we can shift that relationship to one of choice and mutual respect.
Coaching with Systemic Awareness
What do I mean by the systemic?
On a personal level we grow up and develop within systems such as families or wider communities, workplaces and cultures.
On a wider level, the systemic refers to a social context which has developed over centuries, characterised by relationships of inequality, domination and dehumanisation.
Some writers refer to it as patriarchy, others as the capitalist industrial complex, others simply as ‘the system’. It is one where our roles as men, women, people of colour, white people, working class people, middle class people, can feel as if they are predetermined and any attempt to shift them results in push back and burn out.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
By telling the truth about our experience of our social context, by acknowledging our conditioning and its impact, we can start to gradually shift our relationship with it and move to a place of groundedness, meaning and choice.
What issues can I help you with?
Systemic issues:
- I am a young woman in a workplace full of men. How do I make progress while staying connected to myself as a woman?
- I am a man approaching middle age and the social role that I have always played is no longer working for me. Where do I go now?
- I can see that I have a lot to contribute to disrupt and change the status quo. What is my part to play in this?
Meaning and Purpose:
- I am approaching retirement. What do I want to achieve before I get there?
- I would like to take a step forward in my career before I start a family. How do I manage that?
- I no longer feel the motivation I used to at work. Is there something wrong with me? Or do I need a life rethink?
Communication skills
On a more down to earth level, I can provide 1:1 training to improve your communication.
- I have been told I come across as aggressive. I think I am just being direct.
- I find myself repeating the same pattern in relationships. How do I break out of it?
- I find it really hard to get my voice heard.
Let’s have a chat
Find out how we can work together
